I, more often than not, start things with no idea how I'm going to finish them. Bravery and stupidity definitely look the same from 10000 feet.
New America Cool Girl: Finale
If you didn't read those first two parts, the gist is that women pretend to be different than they are in order to catch men, because quite a bit of a normal woman's life has been defined as gross or crazy or a thing women should keep to themselves and not bother the menfolk with.
GROUNDBREAKING. This is not the New York Times, guys, so just blllllllppppprrrrr (<- raspberry noise).
My pool of men who talk to me about how they date is a lot smaller than my pool of girlfriends. I've never been a woman who makes a lot of dude friends (see classic not-like-most-girls NACG move: 'most of my friends are guys'-hair toss-cute giggle except the opposite, boys have cooties and don't belong in my life). However, I can't imagine that the reaction to the NACG moves is easy on the dudes involved, right? Because #spoiler, dudes are also people, cooties notwithstanding. They might like her/love her/want to see her, and not feel like they can tell her because that's not an action that society supports for them either. They might feel like a woman who expresses a desire to be together needs to be shut down because the men around them will mock them. I don't really know, honestly, but it seems like a possibility, right?
Some male blogger, jump in with the 21st Century American Cool Guy?
This is where I get myself into trouble. I have no solutions except to suggest every individual be more honest when they interact with someone they wanna smoosh their parts against. God knows most of us can't do that. We lie to ourselves so much we could do it for a living, there's no way we can become more honest with other people.
Alternately, we could put the four self actualized people who were raised in totally gender free environments in charge of all media. Well, two of them in charge of media, two of them on call at all times to answer a help line for us all to call?
Bad ending, I'm sorry. I am. I wish the answer to why shouldn't I be a NACG and how can I stop was: because it's not you and just do, but it's not. The whole thing is exhausting, right? I'm going to take a 8-12 hours nap and maybe tomorrow I'll have something? Or maybe I'll write a review of You're the Worst. Maybe I'll review GPaltrow's Goop gift recommendations like last year. We'll find out together. (When I walked into yoga this afternoon my teacher asked how I was, then I asked how she was, and she said "in the flow of the day". Tomorrow we'll be in the flow of the blog. Namaste, guys.)