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The revenge date

As far as I can tell, there are three reasons that people start dating again after a breakup. Reason 1

They're ready.

This is obviously the least interesting reason.

Also, if you're looking to get back on the market, this is the reason you should wait for.

PSA over.

Reason 2

They're looking for help getting over their ex. Perhaps this new love will be awesome in all the ways that the old love was not. Maybe the new love will NOT talk about work at dinner, and our theoretical dater will be able to spend all evening mentally comparing the old love to the new love, to the old love's detriment.

The problem here, of course, is that our theoretical 'new love' is getting screwed here, because instead of being appreciate for his or her actual awesomeness, he or she is only a canvas for comparison and complaint.

This is, of course, only a bummer if the 'new love' actually likes our dater. If, perhaps, our new love is getting a delicious dinner or something out of the deal and is ok with that, then by all means our dater should use someone more fabulous to forget about their old love.

Reason 3


This is the whole reason I've been thinking about this. I've been watching an ensemble tv show and I noticed that every time someone in the group started dating someone new, the new person was inevitably paraded in front of the ex, usually sooner rather than later.

The revenge date is based solely on that concept. Our dater picks someone new and goes somewhere the ex may appear, or somewhere the ex will hear about - or if all that fails, posts pictures of the date on Facebook.

Don't do this.

The revenge date is mean.

So to review - if you've recently been through a breakup, you can date if you're ready. If you're not ready, you can date people who know you're not ready if you're able to provide good company

You can't go on a revenge date.

It's just not allowed.

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